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Shall we talk about their weird hormons and antiques here? What makes then tick to some times go of a short plank, to do and say some daft stuff? Were you like your kids if you have kids and if you don't then sibblings, cousins, nieces and nephews?
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The idea of teenagers was first spoken about when I was a teenager and my parents said it was all rubbish, ages and stages I mean, I think this is what got me interested in psychology. Teenagers are very different from the babies and young children we know and love, at about 13 they become almost strangers.
It is a very difficult time for them and to have parents constantly telling them that they're difficult doesn't make them more sure of themselves. I had one that decided he would only wear brown at 13 for instance.
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Ohh this must be a thread for me.
I have 4 kids, age 17 and half. one 4 months off 16, one is 13 next week(all girls) and the boy is 10 and half.

So 3 teenage hormonal girls in my house. emoticon I again think a lot of it is down to the way you are with them. I tend to understand how they feel and talk with them. I don't yell at them or lose my rag with them.

When they were growing up and they were very hormonal we would go into a quite room with some chocolates and put the world right, I would get them to relax and then they would talk to me. Now they still do talk to me.
My eldest 2 have periods, my youngest girl has yet to start, but don't think that will be too long as she has suddenly shot up in height almost as tall as me and im 5' 7 my eldest is also 5'7 my middle girl is 5'8.

I think talking to someone helps. I get on very well with my kids, they respect me and I respect them. I don't treat them like im their Mum, unless its mum time. Im their friend first. They know they can trust me.

As for the boy, he is very close to me, but I don't know what to expect when he goes hormonal (do they?) it will be a learning process with him, but I have confidence I will be able to deal with him too, as my husband won't, when it comes to dealing with the kids problems that is me and not him. He is not as tolerant as me.

My kids don't go out late at night, they don't hang out on the streets, they don't drink, smoke or do drugs. They do fight with each other, sometimes drives me totally crazy. They know how to behave in public, and they treat people with respect and decency.
They all do very well at school, and school reports are always great, they make me proud.
When I see my kids doing good and growing up to be wonderful individuals who know their own minds, are happy with their bodies and with the way they are, and like themselves, then I know I have done something right.

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It sounds like you are doing a great job Erika.
The boy, don't be surprised if he suddenly appears to 'hate' you and wants to be with his friends rather than around you at about 13. I had four sons who are now in their 30s and being very close together - I had all four in seven and a half years - the three eldest are more like triplets than single siblings. They each had a different quirk in their teens, the eldest who used to openly adore me before puberty became secretive and distant and that has only now begun to disappear. He was here last week with me with his new wife and he was quite wonderful, so don't expect your loving son to come back for a good few years. He is off to live in Edinburgh in two weeks.
The second one was always quiet, he became aggressive and the family protector. He used to threaten anyone who interfered with his brothers at school, particularly the youngest who is a softie. He is also married now and he has become the sensible stoical one, never does anything without thinking it through and is still aggressive but not like he was as a teenager.
The third was autistic as a child, he had a hard time at school, used to hide under the desk when he didn't want to do the work and hated being touched. He is not in his early 30s a very successful teacher at a high school, adores children and they follow him around like the pied piper.
The youngest became adoring as a teenager, he used to call me 'pretty lady' even in front of his friends, didn't care at all and is now at almost 30 suddenly becoming an assertive man intent on conquering the world. He has just come back from a trip to Europe and is going back again in December. It looks like he will be leaving South Africa to live abroad next year, so the loving mama's boy has cut the bond and feels confident enough to find his way.
I'm feeling very emotional about the trip I have to do in two weeks to see the eldest couple off on their big adventure to live in Scotland, so forgive me if I gone on about them a bit.
But to get back to Erika, they will change and make new relationships and leave you but if your relationship with them is good now, as you say it is, you will reap the rewards of that for the rest of your life.
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I will be so sad when my kids leave home.(will be richer)but sad all the same. I may come looking for you for advice on the teenage boy. Right now I am getting, I will never get married, I will never leave you mummy. I tell him that things change and you will find that special lady one day and she will be your number 1.

My boy is half blind, we never knew about it till he was 8, we got suspicious when he wasn't reading and not getting on very well at school, he went onto special needs and has since got glasses, and is now going great. Life is good with my kids, yes the day they leave home will be a very sad day in my life. It makes me sad to even think about it Mo, so I can imagine how you are feeling. Sending you hugs. emoticon emoticon

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Aw thanks Erika. I am going to need loads of serious moral support when I report from my laptop after I've seen them off at the airport. The other kids are being really great about it. They're all going to hold me up when I break down at the airport, I'll try not to because I am almost certain that my son will be in tears as well. I saw him when he said goodbye to my husband on Monday morning because he won't see him again until we visit next year.
But on the positive side, I am going to arrange to meet as many of you living in the UK as I can in September next year. That will be real fun and we can post pictures in safe places on our sites for all our friends to see. Interesting, tomorrow, Sunday, Petal is coming to visit for the day and have lunch with us, so that will be another fun pic to post. I'll put it on Anything Goes in the public area for a short time on Monday for you all to see.
To get back to teenagers, you have to let them go as soon as they are ready to and if they aren't, you have to kick them out eventually. As you say, it is a lot cheaper not having a whole bunch of hungry, demanding adults living in the house making you worry when you can't set curfews and restrict the people they're allowed to see and so on as they get older.
When they don't live with you, there's nothing you can do about it, so you do stop worrying eventually. LOL that's when they start worrying about you.
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How great that you and Petal are going to meet up. Have you met before? I would love to see the pik, so will keep an eye on Monday for it. But will be out all day as its my lil daughters birthday(she will become a teenager), so hope its not down before I get back. emoticon

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That board is so quiet these days with everybody away, so I'll leave it up there for a day or two so all our friends can see it.
And to answer your question, yes we had lunch with our husbands when I visited Johannesburg for my son's wedding in March. Tomorrow I'll be cooking lunch for her at my house.
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That sounds great. I hope you both have a great time. emoticon

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We did indeed have a great time! Such fun - and we'll meet again in about two weeks when Mo comes to see her family off to Scotland, and she's coming to spend a day and night here with me before I take her to the airport next morning.

I've also said goodbye to my kids - twice, when they left to live in England. One stayed and is still there in London, the other came back home almost two years ago when our grand-daughter was born, but they're talking about moving abroad again ... not easy, and even more heart-wrenching with a little one to part from. Don't get me started or I'll weep copiously just at the thought of it ... but on the bright side, if they do go far away, there is constant communication with telephone, email, chat lines etc these days which is just wonderful. And flights are so quick with the world becoming smaller - overnight and a bit, depending, and they're home or you're visiting. Have plastic will travel if essential in an emergency lol!

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